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June: Hi, I'm June! I answer most of the questions on this site. I am proudly bisexual and in love with the best girl ever. Now, I don't have all of the answers [I am still learning], but I will always answer/give advice to the best of my abilities! If you prefer someone else's advice, please let me know so I can get them to help you out :) ♥
myallseeingeye:: Hi! I'm Samantha :) After a lot of ups and downs and experiences that have made me relatively knowledgeable, I am now in a relationship with an amazing girl. I'll always answer honestly and give advice to the best of my abilities, so feel free to ask anything :D
exclamations: Hello there, my name is Ashley~ I'm bi and out to anyone who cares to ask!
flawedbydesign-andproud: Hey I'm Alex. I'm bi and proud. I'm still learning about myself and life but I would love to give any advice I can. I will try to answer questions as often as I can :)
camcam-the-ruselord: hi, i'm cam! i use neutral pronouns and i will always give the best advice i can muster so i hope i can help!
Hey there hun,
Alright, so first thing, if you are having worries about being in a relationship you need to tell her. Communication is the most important part of a relationship. Tell her about your insecurities and about what’s scaring you. Tell her you are worried about your inexperience. Tell her that you feel like she has expectations you might not be able to uphold.
It is okay to be jealous sometimes. As long as it doesn’t get in between the two of you. It is okay that she has had past relationships and you have not. that does not mean that you are not the person she wants to be with right now. It just means that she has had feelings for more than one person, and that’s totally okay.
You should not end a relationship with someone because you are afraid. If they like you and you like them you need to sit down together and work it out. You need to talk to her about everything you are feeling.
Open conversation is always the best way to deal with things in a relationship.
I hope you can talk to her and figure things out.
Feel free to message us anytime.
You should do whatever you feel comfortable with. It is totally okay to fantasize about men but not want to have any relationships with them. Sexuality changes throughout life and there is nothing wrong with that. There is also nothing wrong with continuing to identify as heterosexual but fantasizing about men. Some people may be bisexual and not biromantic which is also completely normal. I would suggest looking into some resources, which you can find here, if you are confused about different terms or if you think it may help.
Just do whatever makes you feel comfortable. Feel free to message us anytime you need to.
Being confused is completely normal. Sometimes people have preferences and those preferences can change. But, I think that it is completely okay for you to feel uncomfortable with heterosexual kisses or even a heterosexual relationship. Sexuality and identity is highly confusing and can change throughout life. I know it’s hard right now to make heads or tails of, but just take the time you need to process things and see where that takes you.
Just try and have fun. Biphobia and bierasure may be present but you just have to remember that you exist and that you are wonderful. Celebrate yourself even if others don’t understand or don’t like it. I would also suggest going with a friend so you have someone around in case things start getting uncomfortable for you.
I wish you luck. Don’t forget to have fun.
First things first, be confident. Don’t doubt yourself when you’re talking to her. From there make sure to make eye contact and touch her, not in a creepy way, give her hugs or touch her arm, etc. Compliment her and be nice, ask her about herself, try to get to know her. Tell her that she looks cute, or that her hair looks nice, or that you really like that shirt on her, etc. Make it known that you are looking at her and like what you see. Make sure you let her know you like her personality too, tell her you like her ideas about a topic or that you think she is smart. Ask her to hang out often. Maybe go for lunch or just a walk. It doesn’t have to be classified as a date to help you get close to her. Be genuine, open up to her just as much as she is opening up to you. If all else fails go direct and ask her out.
I hope this helps you. Feel free to message us anytime.
I think you can call yourself whatever you would like to call yourself. If it confuses people that’s okay. Others opinions and feelings are not as important your own. If you feel comfortable calling yourself gay then keep doing it. I don’t think you should be too concerened about other people being confused about your identity. You are the one who needs to feel comfortable with your identity.
Just be yourself
Feel free to message us anytime.
I know it can be hard to keep your identity secret. In my opinion I think you need to do what you have to, to stay safe. If there are one or two people you can confide in I would suggest you do that. If many of the people you know will be hateful I would urge you to consider very carefully if you want to come out to them. I know it is a terrible situation to be put in but you need to stay safe. There can be a lot of hate when coming out into a religious family or community because it is seen as a sin or as not acceptable. I just want you to make sure that you are safe. If you ever need to confide in someone we are always here and if you would like a more private setting my personal ask is always open and I would always be here to help you out.
I hope things go well for you and that you stay safe.
Feel free to message us again.
Ah the love of a straight friend. All you can do is realize that you can’t go anywhere with it. You two are friends and you are going to have to stay friends. It will suck and it will be hurtful but you’re going to have to move on.
Good luck. Feel free to message us anytime.
Coming out can be hard. I would suggest starting with the people or person you feel most comfortable with. Tell them you trust them and that you want to be open with them. Speak from the heart and be honest with them and yourself. It must certainly be difficult knowing who you are but hiding it from others. If you think people will misunderstand try to educate them. You can search under the “resources” tag for some links that may help you but don’t be afraid to do your own research and try to help your friends and family understand. Try to get them to see things from your point of view and tell them how important it is that they try to understand an support you.
I wish you luck. Feel free to message us again if you need to.
You can have a gender preference and still be bisexual. You are still 100% bi. You are valid.