Please note somewhere in your question if you would like us to answer it privately! Otherwise, we will publish it to help others! If you are asking on anon it would be immensely helpful if you could leave an identifying signature in case you decide to come back again. It would make multiple asks much easier for us to track. ☺☺☺☺☺☺☺☺

This tumblr will be acting as a space for individuals to come and ask another individual (who identities as bisexual) for advice. It began as a response to the many questions that were being asked of FuckYeahBisexuals. If you would like a specific team member to answer your question - please specify. Otherwise - thank you and remember, we are only here to give suggestions, only you can decide what to do.

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So far there are 5 Team members:


MsAdventures: Creator


June: Hi, I'm June! I answer most of the questions on this site. I am proudly bisexual and in love with the best girl ever. Now, I don't have all of the answers [I am still learning], but I will always answer/give advice to the best of my abilities! If you prefer someone else's advice, please let me know so I can get them to help you out :) ♥


myallseeingeye:: Hi! I'm Samantha :) After a lot of ups and downs and experiences that have made me relatively knowledgeable, I am now in a relationship with an amazing girl. I'll always answer honestly and give advice to the best of my abilities, so feel free to ask anything :D


exclamations: Hello there, my name is Ashley~ I'm bi and out to anyone who cares to ask!


flawedbydesign-andproud: Hey I'm Alex. I'm bi and proud. I'm still learning about myself and life but I would love to give any advice I can. I will try to answer questions as often as I can :)

camcam-the-ruselord: hi, i'm cam! i use neutral pronouns and i will always give the best advice i can muster so i hope i can help!

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Hello there

 

Anonymous asked
I mainly like boys, but I also like a small amount of girls, does this mean I'm not a true bisexual?

man these kinds of questions kinda irk me. 

there’s no such thing as a “true” bisexual. if you say you’re bisexual, then you’re bisexual. period. no if, ands, or buts about it.

like boys and girls? congratulations on being bisexual.

-cam

bands-and-timelords asked
i'm a girl in high school and i think i like my best friend who's also a girl this isn't the first time this has happened but i dont think im entirely into girls because there still some boy i feel that way about im not sure if this is just a "phase" or not

only you can know that. i can’t tell you whether or not it’s a phase or anything. 

before, i posted a video by laci green where she said it the best. take as much time as you need to figure it out, but we can’t tell you if you’re bisexual or not.

don’t stress, all things will be clear with time :)

cheers, 

cam

Anonymous asked
Four weeks ago, I realized I was bisexual. Today I came out to a close friend of mine and she wants me to come out to more people. But I'm scared. I'm frightened people will hate me

don’t let anyone force you into coming out.

come out on your own terms and only when you feel ready to do so. and remember that you don’t HAVE to come out, it’s not a mandatory thing. it’s your personal business and you have the right to keep your business to yourself.

cheers,

cam

are you lgbt+ and looking for a safe place to make friends?

ohhotdamnitskingcam:

are you lgbt+? looking for a great place to make some friends and have people to talk to?

hi, i’m cam. i didn’t intend for this to sound like an infomercial but that’s just how it turned out. anyways, i have a skype group for lgbt+ people where support each other, talk about life, play video games, and just hang out in general.

examples of people who can join the group:

  • nice folks 
  • homosexual, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, polysexual folks
  • genderqueer, genderfluid, agendered, trans* and non-binary folks
  • if you fit anywhere into the lgbt+ community, you are more than welcomed!

i only ask that if you are an ally that you please do not ask to join. this is a safe place for lgbt+ people to interact with other lgbt+ people on a daily basis! currently there are 15 people in the group with about 7 active members. we don’t force you to talk if you don’t feel comfortable yet so feel free to join the group and just observe us for a while. there is no pressure to do anything you are not comfortable with. you can introduce yourselves to us whenever you feel comfortable! we try very hard to make our group as comfortable for people as possible and we are all geeky and fun and very supportive! 

interested?

  • add me on skype (wolfsyndicate)
  • in your friendrequest message, let me know that you’d like to be a part of my lgbt+ skype group
  • i’ll add you and boom, you’re in! :)

we’ll probably go to introduce ourselves but by no means does it mean you have to :) but when you are ready, feel free to introduce yourself! tell us your name, where you’re from, what you like, even your sexuality or pronouns if you’d like! we try our hardest to address everyone as they would like to be addressed and we have members from all around the world so someone is usually up whenever you’re up to talk! consider joining us! :D

hope to see you soon!

Anonymous asked
I am not gay but I don't think I'm straight either. There are so many labels and categories out there now and I don't have a clue where I fit. I've always wanted to fall in love, marry and give my virginity to a man but now at 23 I'm finding myself having crushes on girls and wanting to having sexual experiences with girls as well as guys. I don't know where I fit and it's very confusing. What am I? ~~

Hey there,

I cant tell you what you are. That is up for you to decide. However, I can give you some resources to help you. 

If you look at some of the posts here.

There are a bunch of links to websites that may help you sift through all the labels and categories and hopefully discover which identity feels right for you.

Feel free to message us again if you ever need more support.

- Alex

Anonymous asked
So I have been struggling a lot lately with my sexuality. I have thought I was straight and just into guys my entire life (I'm seventeen), but lately I am not so sure. I have a ton of queer friends, and I love them more than most of my straight ones, so I'm not against being bi, but I've been starting to feel attracted to guys and girls and I don't know what to do. I find myself looking at girls the way I usually look at guys and I'm just really confused right now...

Hello there,

It can be very difficult to discover and understand you sexuality. I know that it must be incredibly confusing. I know that this is my go to answer but I believe it is the best way to go. And I believe that you should educate yourself. Look into the different sexual identities and what they all mean, then you can see if anything speaks to you.

I can list some resources for you. 

reach out

Youth Resource

Youth Line

Alex Sanchez’s Resources

This article

This article about terms

LGBT Center

Straight Out

Look through some of these and the ‘resources’ tag and maybe something will stick out or help you. 

If you ever need any more help feel free to message us again.

-Alex

Anonymous asked
Hi! Im having a bit of trouble with something and i havent come out to my parents because i dont exactly know WHAT my sexuality is, so i dont feel comfortable asking them for advice. So, when i started school last September i made a friend & we have a lot in common & it was great! But then i noticed i sort of felt jealous when she was around other girls or hugging them. I myself am a girl and get butterflies when i see her. How can

how can i drop hints that i like her? Im not a jealous person & i dont know why im feeling this way! My heart beats fast & i feel happy when im around her. I want to be with her. Any advice?

Hey there,

So in my experience I find that flirting can be tricky and fun. You need to find what works for you. Trying to spend more time with her is always a good start. Ask her out to lunch or coffee or some other activity you both like to do. Show her you care about her. Ask her how she’s doing, how her day is going, etc. Just show her you genuinely care about what she feels and has to say. Touch her. Not inappropriately of course, but touch her arm when you talk to her, brush your hand against hers, hug her goodbye or hello. Make an effort to show her you care about her. If you’re feeling really bold ask her to go with you on a more date-like activity or event. 

Also make sure that she is interested in girls as well. You never want to assume someone’s sexuality. You can always go the cheesy subtle way and ask her if she likes anyone and hint that you may like someone and they may be very close to you. Just be yourself and be honest.

Good luck.

-Alex

Anonymous asked
Two hours later he replied. He said "I still love you" and though I think he meant it to be supportive I'm super annoyed with the response. I feel like of course you still freaking love me! I'm me. Like, why would that have changed? Why would that need to be clarified? #panickinganon

Hey there,

I think in a situation like this people don’t really know what to say. Bisexuality is still a very taboo sexuality. Many people don’t understand it or believe in it. Though your friend is gay that doesn’t mean he understands your sexuality or your choice to not disclose your sexuality to everyone all the time.

I think the best thing for you to do is talk to him. Show him that nothing changes now that he knows your sexuality. Show him that you are still the same person you were before.

Good luck, I hope things go well.

- Alex

the-bi-line asked
I was in a previous relationship with a girl, but my parents and family weren't as enthused to meet her as they are for my boyfriend. How would you suggest I broach the conversation with them about how the difference in reactions makes me feel (even though this conversation is happening after the fact)?

Hey there,

This is a difficult situation. I think it would be best just to sit them down and be honest. Tell them how you are feeling. Tell them that it hurt you and that you understand it may be hard to understand your sexuality. Maybe even educating them on your sexuality. There’s no perfect answer to this because everyone is different. Maybe you can ask why they were this way? What about it made them less enthused? Try and see if you can talk through the problem.

Good luck,

- Alex

Anonymous asked
Hey! I'm a 16 year old bisexual girl, and I have a major crush on a lesbian. The only problem is, both of our families are very religious. Hers being Hindu and mine Christian. I'm not sure how to go about this because there's no way we could spend time at each other's houses in fear of our families finding out if anything in our relationship progressed. I can't imagine coming from a background like hers with the religion and Indian culture, I just don't know what to do!

Hello,

This sounds like a very difficult situation. I wish I had some super amazing magical advice to help you get through this. Unfortunately I don’t. The best thing I can suggest for you is to support your crush. I wouldn’t recommend going behind your and her families backs because that can land you in more trouble than you would like. But, I think that being there for each other and supporting each other is very important, especially since you already have a close relationship. I don’t think there is a real solution to this until you are both able to be yourselves and be open with those close to you. 

I know it’s a terrible situation and there is no good way to solve it right now but I hope you two can at least support each other and be there for each other.

Good luck

- Alex