FuckYeah! Ask a Bi!



For a friend who had troubles keeping track of the different sexual orientations. Sorry for not including all of them, I included the most common ones.

The illustration for Poly, Bi and Omni are just examples, of course.




Via Weapons of Mass Distraction

Anonymous said: Hi! So I did join the GSA and at the first meeting I had a great time getting to know everyone. Some of my newer friends have joined as well, and they are very open about their bi/pan/homosexuality. I want to come out soon, but how should I do it? I want to tell my parents first- they aren't biphobic, but I know the news would shock them. Any advice on how to do so? -JH

Hey JH,

Congratulations on joining the GSA! As for coming out I think you just need to be comfortable. When you are comfortable discussing it just tell them. It doesn’t have to a huge spectacle. You just need to open up and tell them. Don’t worry if it’s a shock to them. It’s okay. They will accept you. You are perfect and amazing and when ever you are ready you just tell them. 

I am glad you have a support system that you feel like you can come out to. 

Good luck, love.


staystrongjojo said: Im bisexual&only been w/ men I want to experiment w/ women but find it hard to stay confident I have a crush on a girl@work&have no idea how to talk to her about it Shes also bisexual&knows i am but i dont know how to make it clear that im interested

Hey there,

This is always hard because everyone is different. For me personally, my flirting is pretty much the same for guys and girls. I would just talk to her like she’s a person. Try getting to know her. Show her that you are interested in her as a person. Maybe ask her to lunch or out for coffee when you feel comfortable. I think the first step is always getting to know them. Once you feel comfortable talking to them you will feel more comfortable taking risks, flirting more, maybe getting to more intimate topics. 

I hope this helped. Good luck.

- Alex

Anonymous said: If I'm attracted to women as well as non binary genders, but not attracted to men, does that make me bi? Or would it be something else?

here’s a nice list of different sexualities.

as i was just telling someone on private with a similar dilemma, remember that “queer” is an umbrella term that can be used when one is unsure. it is NOT derogatory unless used in an ill manner either. also remember that whatever you choose to all yourself, you do not have to justify anything. you are who you are and only you know you like you do.

hope i’ve helped,


Anonymous said: would you say a person could be bisexual even if they've only been with one sex? I'm middle aged male only been with opposite sex but for awhile now have had sexual attraction to same sex and am thinking I'd like to act on it. please answer privately, thank you.

Yes. Absolutely yes.

I have to stress that there is a HUGE difference between sexual orientation and sexual behaviour. You can be bisexual but have only been with one sex and that’s totally ok! Because your behaviour doesn’t define your orientation.

- Alex

Anonymous said: So lately I've really been leaning more toward girls, and people usually call me gay... I mean I like boys too, but I'm mostly interested in girls right now. I just can't figure out how to identify. Help?

Hello there, 

Identifying is all up to you. I think the best thing to do is educate yourself. Look into the different terms and labels. 

Also remember that you can be heterosexual and biromantic, or bisexual and heteroromantic, or any combination of any identifier that is out there. 

Don’t worry about what other people call you. Just focus on what you feel is right. I hope this helped.

Feel free to message us anytime.


Edit: Biromanitc is when a person feels a romantic attraction to more than one gender but not necessarily a sexual attraction to more than one gender. 

Heteroromantic is when a person only feels a romantic attraction to one gender. But this doesn’t mean they are heterosexual.

Anonymous said: Hi, so I think that I might be bi but I don't know. I am a seventeen year old girl and I have always thought that I was straight but now I have been thinking about girls a lot like I think about guys. Like, I would not mind kissing a girl, much like I would not mind kissing a guy. I've never been kissed or had a real relationship so I don't know if I am just being stupid or if this is a real thing I think I am feeling. I need some help in figuring out if I am bi or not... thanks! ~Skylar Dakota

Hey there Skylar Dakota,

Understanding your sexuality can be incredibly confusing and feel a little weird at first. First of all I am going to give you the generic definition of bisexuality. So the general definition is someone who is attracted to more than one gender. But others say that it is someone who is attracted to men and women. I personally identify with the first one better.

So from there I will direct you to this post, which is a list of resources that may help you understand the term and what it may mean.

You are the only one who can identify as anything at all. So you need to educate yourself on terms and meanings and think about how you feel and then you can decide what is best for you.

I hope that this may help you. If you need any more help feel free to message us again.

- Alex


We can’t answer anonymous questions privately. I’ve seen a few people do this already. If your question is anonymous, we don’t know who you are and therefore can’t answer it privately.

If you come off of anon and ask your question, then we can answer privately. Please keep this in mind when asking! 



Anonymous said: I usually refer to myself as a bisexual, but some days lean more towards to women, some days more to men. Occasionally I'll feel totally attracted to one gender and not the other. Is there a separate term for this? Or is it normal?

This is completely normally. A lot of times with bisexuality your sexuality is fluid and you will lean one way and then the other. This is totally normal. Many people experience this.

- Alec

dontletmego13 said: I came out to my best friend two nights ago and he had the best reaction I could've hoped for. He's the first person I've come out to. When we were talking today we just casually talked about girls and it felt amazing to be able to do that without having to pretend I was joking. I just love that I can finally be the real me around someone.

That is so amazing! I am so happy for you lovely! So glad you have a great friend to support you!

- Alex

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