February 2012
1 post
Anonymous asked: I'm being bullied on tumblr for trying to say to a girl that maybe she shouldn't use the word gay to mean anything negative, and she started calling me gay and now my ask box is flooding with "u r gay" messages and my post is being reblogged with pictures attached of people shouting gay. I feel really bad about it. What can I do?
January 2012
28 posts
Anonymous asked: I came out bi to a few people and now more people know, I don't mind, in fact I think it's great that I can be myself now however some people aren't sure so instead they just say thing's behind my back. I don't really have any real friends and the one's I hang around with don't like me talking about the same gender as me. People say I am making it up for...
Anonymous asked: i think im bisexual am not sure though i have a boyfriend and ive bin with him for all most 5 years know and i fink am more in two girls then men i havent found the right girl yet cuz i fink am so ugly that i cant please get back to me thanks kerry
misterwalter asked: Hi! I'm a senior in college and over the past few years I've realized that I'm bi. I've gotten to a point where I've come out to a few friends & now I'm deciding whether or not to tell my family. My big issue right now is that I'm struggling with this stereotype of being "lesbian-light" or "just trying to get attention" so I'm...
Anonymous asked: I'm a bi girl in a relationship with a guy. I love him deeply, but I feel incomplete sometimes because I'm also really attracted to girls and sometimes I just long to be with a girl sexually. Have other people felt this way? I'm afraid that I will feel like this forever and I will never really be able to have a committed relationship. (By the way, the same thing happened when I was...
Anonymous asked: I haven't told many people that I am bi yet because I am still young (14 F). But when I tried to tell my friend that I finally ''faced the facts'' of bi and that I was going to come out to a few people she said these words exactly, "You mean you chose to be bisexual, right." I was kind of confused I mean like I didn't ''choose'' to be bi...
Anonymous asked: What do I do when people think I am more conventionally "attractive" than my best friend, and therefore I get slightly more attention than her? I trust her more than anyone else and I want to be able to go to her when I am feeling down/confused, but when it has to do with someone flirting or whatever, I feel like that's the worst possible thing I could do to her (esp. since she...
Anonymous asked: I'm bisexual and haven't come out (15 and a girl btw). I have 2 best friends, one is straight and one is pansexual (also girls). I've developed a crush on my pansexual friend but she flirts with our straight one. I've had the crush b4 she even came out & it only intensified when she did but its obvious she's crushing on out straight friend. I'm lost on what to do....
Anonymous asked: I believe I am bi. I have been thinking about this for a couple years now and have even told a few friends about my thoughts. I have kissed two girls and have loved both experiences, but I was drunk. I also get turned on by girls, but I also get turned on by two boys kissing. I don't really know whats going on, and I have decided to not come out fully (aka fb official, parents) until I have a...
Anonymous asked: I am pretty sure I am bi and have told a couple of my close friends. I have a boyfriend who I have been with for just under 4 months who I have yet to tell mainly because I came to this realization after we started going out. He also a little small town, not conservative, but hasn't really seen a lot of the world and I'm worried he won't understand because I don't fully...
Anonymous asked: I have always identified as "straight" because I'm attracted to men and have never before been attracted to women. But theres this girl who over the last year has become my closest friend. She's funny and gorgeous and I can't stop thinking about wanting to kiss her and maybe more, whenever i'm around her I get nervous and lightheaded. Yet don't feel this way...
Anonymous asked: Lately I've started to feel as if I like girls as well as boys. It's only been over the last few weeks but I want to share it with someone. I'm the sort of person that talks to others so I can get stuff straightened out in my mind but I'm scared to talk to my friends about it. I know they love me and that but I live in a town that is narrow minded and sees people who are...
bekkaa asked: To madishappy: I personally think that Lady Gaga is a terrible role model for the specific *bisexual* community. I haven't seen her as such since Poker Face, and that was years ago. As for the LGBTQ community... well, she's more for specific gay rights than LGBTQ. Her stunt at the VMA's was a slanderous move against the trans* community, which is the opposite of what she wanted to...
Anonymous asked: So I was just wondering how I go about telling my partner I'm bi when starting a new relationship? When is the best time to tell them, or should I at all? Like I would never date both sexes at the same time, I know some people are scared of that and so they may not want t date a bi, but that's simply not the case with me.
Anonymous asked: Hey guys! So after much thought, I have decided that I am a heteroromantic bisexual (I'm a girl). And I feel like a lot of queer people aren't okay with that because I don't really date women, and I'm not the kind of person to give away sex freely or have casual hookups, so it's unlikely that I'll even have sex with a woman. I still want to be active in the queer...
Anonymous asked: hello c: I was talking to my mother months and months ago about a gay friend, and she told me "At least try a guy first." I brushed it off. Later, my bff and I got together. We're both girls. She came out and told me she liked me, then asked she could kiss me. I agreed, even though I thought I was straight. After a short, passionate kiss, we giggled and whoops it's been a year...
madishappy asked: Hello! I'm doing a 10 page rhetorical analysis on Lady Gaga for my communications class & I have a question I was wondering if you could answer! I was wondering your thoughts on Lady Gaga; do you think that she reinforces negative stereotypes of bisexuals such as promiscuity or do you think she is a positive influence on reducing prejudice again GLBTQ? Any information would be useful!...
Anonymous asked: Hi! I have a question. My gf and I have been dating for a year, on Christmas Eve :) We both talked about things. She identifies as a les. I am not sure. I think boys are so cute but I never would date one. I blush and get butterflies around guys, and girls. Around everyone, actually. I think girls are prettier, but I don't like boobs. Nor do I like the penis. I like flat chests and vaginas,...
Anonymous asked: i'm a 22 year old female, been in 2 committed relationships with guys since i was 15. A few weeks ago i went to a bar and met a girl. she really liked me and i ended up kissing her for a few seconds, a few times during the night. I was really nervous and awkward and she noticed. it was because i didn't want to leave but didn't know how to act in this new situation. I have a...
Anonymous asked: I don't know what my sexuality is. I'm a woman who loves intercourse with men. I'm sexually attracted to men but, I'm attracted sexually to women also. Not all woman, just some. When watching a film with girl on girl action, a sudden frenzy begins, and excitement fills me. I enjoy/love sex with men but I don't feel that exact feeling when thinking of women. I've never...
Anonymous asked: Im a 15 year old bisexual girl and im caught in two relationships. I am dating my best friend who is my age for 2 months and i really like her but she dont go to my skool and we have two different lives. she lives on my street tho. there is this guy who likes me that goes to my skool, is a year older than me and i really like him. i don't know who to choose. please help.
Anonymous asked: Well...I am a bisexual girl and I just found out that the girl I like, likes me...but we dont know what to do...we're scared, and we're not a couple for now...but we do flirt...but people just think we're friends and are kidding...I have even kissed her, but that was just friends...but now that I know she also like me back...I have no idea what to do...
Anonymous asked: Hi! My question was mentioned a few spaces down where I was concerned if I was hormonal and this was the result of my gut feeling of being Bisexual. I took your advice and accepted I was bi, with the help of my lesbian friend and her advice. My parents were homophobic when I told them so I lived at my next door neighbours/best friends house for 2 days before they came to terms and now accept me...
Anonymous asked: I'm really confused at the moment. I know I'm attracted to guys but lately I've started to get really turned on by women. I don't know if it's a phase or something more permanent. I don't want people to think I'm doing this for attention though because I would rather know one no about it (at the moment), especially if something did happen with a girl. I...
Anonymous asked: I'm a 22 year old girl. I've never been in a sexual/romantic relationship before, and don't generally worry about that. I'll meet someone I like eventually! I usually identify as heterosexual, but have been privately wondering if I might be bi. It's a difficult sexuality to pin down. I haven't found myself attracted to any real life women, but my cases of being...
Anonymous asked: Ok I'm 13 and I know I'm bi. Here's the thing. My friends and I were at the park and this girl we know was there. So my friend, who is also bi and I thought it would be funny to act like we were going out. So we held hands and walked over to the other girl we saw. She threaded to tell this girl who likes to gossip alot that we were bi if we didn't kiss. So we kissed with our...
Anonymous asked: Wondering what I should do... Hey I'm a 20 year old straight male in a FWB situation with a bi-Sexual girl.we both are into the same things. We are sorta hippies lol mixed into techies. Love ipads and dank bud lmao. We have talked before about becoming more than fwb but she's in the middle of a divorce. The 3 months we have been fwb we have had sex 4 times and each time was mindblowing...
Anonymous asked: Hello. I have never really done anything with a girl, But I find girls really attractive always have. I only find very few guys attractive. Guys naked grosses me out a bit.. but I dnt know if I am bi or what Since I've never done anything with a girl but I get all these feelings for girls.. Im kinda confused.. I dont have anybody I can talk to about this. Advice? Thanks.
Anonymous asked: Okay so I have known I'm bi for a fact for several years now but I've never actually dated/done anything with a girl. I know that my mom thinks "bi-sexuals should pick a side and stick to it" but other than that, she's a very open and excepting mother. I have a steady relationship with a guy right now and I don't think I'll be seeing any girls anytime soon so my...
December 2011
6 posts
vibimmix asked: Is there any reliable to know if a guy is bi? I wish there were a tangible way to tell.
Anonymous asked: I asked this on the FYBS site, not realizing this was more appropriate but i'd like to like to ask here as well. Lately i've been upset because i'm not sure if i'm technically bisexual or pansexual. When i'm in love with someone, their appearance and genitalia are irrelevant. when i'm attracted to someone, its based on their appearance, not gender. i know that...
Anonymous asked: Hi, um, so I'm a 17 year old trans girl which means I was born in the wrong body at birth. But I've been accepted for hormone treatment and stuff since I was 15 so to the outside world I'm just another pretty girl, no signs indicating anything else. Here follows my question; I recently came to realize I tend to be interested in guys for love and in girls for friends with benefits...
Anonymous asked: Hey. Um, this will sound odd, but I'm 15 and for about 3 months now, I've had a gut feeling/instinct I'm bisexual. I've been in 2 long-term relationships with guys (I'm female) but recently I've been feeling attracted to girls in my friendship group. My entire family is heavily catholic and homophobic... am I just in a hormonal stage, or should I consider coming out?
Anonymous asked: Hi! I'm not sure if I'm bi or not but looking back on my childhood I'm realizing that what I blew off as admiration or friendship for girls was truly attraction. I've never been with a girl because I've been dating the same guy for 5 years, and would NEVER cheat on him, but I really want to know for sure. It's not even like I want to just drunkenly hook up but I...
Anonymous asked: How do I come out as bisexual to my parents? My parents are nice, reasonable people who are allies of homosexuals and such – just, I have no idea where they stand when it comes to bisexuality. I’m scared they’ll wave my sexuality away because I’m 16 and I just ‘want to be different’ or because I’m ‘doing it for the attention’ – if they...
November 2011
14 posts
Anonymous asked: Kay, so I've come out as bisexual to a number of close friends. For a lot of people, It goes in one ear and out the other. They say things like 'well, I think everyone's bisexual'. Bust most people say 'okay' and just seem to ignore it. They refer to me as straight, and say things like 'you won't care about this but.." when referring to the...
Anonymous asked: I have always identified myself as straight, although always wondering if I was attracted to girls as well. Yesterday I drunkenly made out with this beautiful girl in a club, and my friends saw it, and completely accepted it. But I feel extremely uncomfortable about it and don't really know to interpret it - how can I know this is for real and not just a phase I'm going through?
thewholebanana asked: You see, since I came out as bisexual at the age of 13. For almost four long years, I've never felt anything similar to pride, and at most points, shame. I know I sound like I'm giving you folks a sob story but, is there anything you recommend to help me in this situation?
you-be-killin-em asked: relationship with a boy. i crave a woman's touch. i want a girlfriend. i love my boyfriend, but i can't tell whether i love him romantically or not. i don't get as aroused from him as i do with girls. i've had a fair amount of experience with women now, and i watch lesbian porn. i tend to go for girls who look like boys, however i love their slender, curvacious bodies. i love...
you-be-killin-em asked: although i used to get off with my friends, who were girls, in the past whenever i was drunk, like in spin the bottle, and i used to love this thrill i got from it. then i saw this one girl when i was out one night... i never thought i'd be able to do anything sexual with her, nor love her, yet i did. it came so naturally, it didn't feel wrong, and i didn't question it once....
you-be-killin-em asked: i know you hear 'i'm confused' an awful lot, but i really really am. during the younger years, i've had quite a few boyfriends, however they never lasted long enough to be serious, and sexually activity didn't happen very often, or only more so whenever i was drunk. i don't know if this is because i was shy or i just didn't like it much. i've never really...
you-be-killin-em asked: or am i really gay? so many people have told me that it doesn't matter about labels, but for once, i just want to be clear about something. please give me your thoughts? thank you xx
Anonymous asked: How to know if really are bi? I feel like I might be but since I think about and have more of these type of feelings towards guys (I'm a girl, age 21 if that helps) and feel confused somewhat. I fantasize most of the time about men I have crushes on, and usually see my self as just straight. When I say I'm bi, if feels pretty weird, maybe I am just curious, I dunno. What is your...
Anonymous asked: I have always identified as bi-sexual but I'm not sure, maybe I'm just really open minded! I have kissed and been touched by a girl which I enjoyed. However it felt a little awkward and I don't know whether that's because it was new to me or because it's not my sexuality. I am definitely find women sexually attractive but have never been in a relationship with one. Could I...
Anonymous asked: I want to comeout as bisexual to my extended family. I am hesitant to do so because my aunt has also dated women in the past and I dont want to seem like I'm doing it for attention, to copy he, or to be more like her. Do you have any suggestions/advice/etc? Love the blog by the way.
Anonymous asked: I consider myself bisexual with a slight preference for women. (I'm female.) Do you have advice on how to react to being told maybe I shouldnt come out to my immediate family because of uncertainty as to their reactions? This follos being told I should consider coming out to my grandmother.
Anonymous asked: I am a bit confused about my sexuality. I have a very strong desire to have gay sex with a man, but I do not want a relationship. I am attracted to women emotionally and physically but only sexually attracted to men. Also when I watch porn I am attracted to both the man and the woman. I love looking at a hard penis when it ejaculates Am I bisexual or bi-curious?
Anonymous asked: Hey! So, I have this best friend who I've had since I was two. We are now in our mid twenties. Back in early High School we basically had sex. It started as innocent dry humping and ended up being pretty much full on sex. We did it all day every day all summer. When the summer ended, we never spoke of it again. We see each other at least once a year and talk all the time but we both pretend...
Anonymous asked: I am an extremely shy female. I would never approach a stranger, but see many I wish I could. I have only had any kind of sexual experience with men, but am still a virgin. I've never hooked up with a girl, but definitely am attracted to them and can imagine being happy in a same-sex relationship. I don't know what to do, and feel I will be forever stuck in this kind of limbo. I want a...
October 2011
8 posts
Anonymous asked: so i recently realized im bisexual. and um i was wondering if other bisexual/gay people get offended if you want to keep your relashionship a secret? like that you dont want to tell your parent that your bi. because i realy dont know. my family will NEVER accept me if i told them.